WHY MOST KENYA’S PROFESSIONAL WOMEN ARE NOT MARRIED

Marriage, they say is ordained in heaven. However, the marriage institution is amongst the most threatened relations in modern times. Long ago, marriage was treated as a holy institution with the man as the head of the family in accordance with the African traditional religion. For instance marriage was significant in procreation and the clan’s continuity. In Africa the marriage institution was honoured by all as moral obligation of every member in the community. In America you can never be chosen into any leadership position if your marriage is not straight.

Nowadays, marriage has become a choice and not a moral obligation. With the advent of women liberation movement in Kenya, economic hardships, education and advanced technology, marriage has been rendered almost an insignificant institution.

What is more alarming is the rate at which couples divorce. Domestic violence, financial stress and feminist movement are to blame for this increasing rate. A recent survey in S. Africa revealed that it is professional and well paid women that lead in Kenya. You’ll need a keen look at the successful career women and you’ll be surprised that most of them are single. In Kenya alone top women Ps, lawyers, MPs, Civil Servants, Preachers and business ladies are single mothers or divorcees. The major reason being a career woman would rather be single and free than submit to a husband. Strangely you’ll discover that they’re engaged in extra marital affairs. Due to their affluence, they exchange and dump men like matatus.

There is always a vacuum in their lives which only a man can fill. Career women like late Wangari Maathai, Martha Karua, Sally Kosgey, Esther Passaris whose father was Italian, Dr. Naomi Shaban, Njoki Ndung’u and top preachers others turned Mp’s e.g. Margaret and Teresia Wairimu are divorcees, yet they are very successful in their careers. Men and women were created to compliment each other, not be equal yet women would want their status in the family be equal to that of men. Even the bible says a man is the head of a family. There in lie, the irony! what do you think?